What is life coaching?
Life Coaching focuses on the ‘here and now’ and is based on goals, dreams and visions for the future. Unlike counselling, life coaching doesn't involve some form of past personal-history analysis. Life Coaching is a designed alliance between coach and client, where the coaching relationship continually gives all the power back to you, the client.
You, the client, are the only expert in your entire life who truly knows who you are and what you need. You are the only expert who can recognize what is absolutely best for you. My role as your coach is having the skills about knowing the right questions to ask, and having the right tools and techniques to empower and enable you to find those answers within yourself. Even if those answers appear to be obscured, concealed or hidden inside. As your coach it is my role to help you remove the obstacles that prevent you from achieving your goal/s. But rather than giving you advice, I will allow you find the answers yourself.
When coaching a client I use a coaching model created by Curly Martin called:
" I CAN DO"
What does letters in I CAN DO stand for?
I – what is important to you in your life. It is a first set of “investigation” that will enable coaches and clients to create a trusting environment as well for the client to express themselves about their concerns/issues and any particular reason why they need a life coach.
C – what is happening in your life right now, what is current.
A – what is the aim of the coaching session, what would like to end up with at the end of the session.
N – what number of options, alternatives , possibilities do you have that could be used to achieve the goal/ goals.
D – when , how, where, which .It is the process where you are creating an action plan with set dates.
O – how will you know that the outcome of your action plan has been achieved.
When providing life coaching I also draw on a range of models and techniques including:
Neurolinguistic programming – NLP involves a series of techniques and procedures that can be used to explain and plan behaviour; the emphasis is on performing to one’s full potential.
Cognitive behavioural therapy – CBT is based on the idea that how we think (cognition), how we feel (emotion), and how we act (behaviour) interact together. Specifically, our thoughts determine our feelings and our behaviour. Therefore if you change the way you think, this will, in turn, change the way you feel and behave.
Emotional Freedom Technique - Using tapping to overcome resistance and limiting beliefs, which show up as blockages to successfully achieving the life goal.
Time management – this may involve a range of organisational tools and techniques, but the central principle is simple and profound: Spend your time doing the things you value, or the things that help you to achieve your goals.
How will I know if life coaching is right for me?
Life coaching can be used to work on any aspect of a person’s life. However to be truly successful, coaching asks certain things of the individual:
- The ability to focus-on one’s self, and being prepared to explore and answer the tough questions to overcome personal insecurities.
- A strong desire to let go of any anger, judgement or resentment.
- The ability to challenge limiting existing attitudes, beliefs and behaviours and to develop new ones to achieve goals.
- Observe-the behaviours and communications of others, as well as self.
- Be prepared to not take one’s self so seriously, using humour to lighten and brighten any situation.
- To believe in one’s own intuition, assumptions, and judgements.
- Taking ownership and responsibility for one's life, by taking control of own choices, thoughts and decisions.
How many sessions will I need?
A life coaching treatment plan may consist of up 3 to 6 sessions, or more depending on the goal and level at which the client works at.